When you make the decision to get sober, the most important thing you can do is keep an open mind. You will hear many different stories from others in recovery, and not all of them will be similar to yours.
Don’t Compare Out
“My bottom was worse than yours,” or, “my bottom wasn’t nearly that bad.” Both of these statements can be incredibly damaging to your chances at recovery. When you begin going to meetings, attending support groups, or go to treatment, you will hear an incredible range of experiences. Inevitably, some people will have reached a “lower” bottom than you, while others may not have had it as bad. But the thing to remember is, these experiences are all relative. If you stay in recovery long term, you will inevitably hear pieces of your own story in the experiences of others. But the thing to pay closer attention to is the feelings others have had while they were actively drinking or using. What unites people in recovery is not specific experiences, but the feelings that we all share. Most of us felt the exact same way when we were in active addiction- emptiness, shame, loneliness, hopelessness, despair, and overall, driving fear. The way we were living only perpetuated these feelings, so the phrase “bottom” shouldn’t be thought of as an experience, but a feeling. A feeling that you simply could not continue living the way you had been, and that you were willing to walk into the unknown and became open to recovery, knowing that your life had to change. Most people in recovery reached this point prior to getting sober, and even the ones that may have been court-ordered or pressured by family eventually reached this point of desperation and willingness if they ended up achieving long-term sobriety. So the point is, don’t give much stock to whether or not you think someone’s “bottom” was the same as yours, or whether you shared specific experiences. If you are a true alcoholic or addict, you will inevitably relate to the feelings shared in the rooms of recovery.
Don’t Wait Before Getting Help
If you think you may have a problem with drugs or alcohol, and feel that you are willing to do whatever is necessary to make a change in your life, don’t wait. The ego of the addict is incredibly resilient, and if you wait, you risk “forgetting” how bad it is, and continuing on in the misery of active addiction. Don’t turn away from your chance at a new life. Call the addiction professionals at Serenity Acres today for your free confidential assessment: 1-800-203-2024.