In early recovery, especially if you just got out of rehab or jail, almost every action you take either contributes to or takes away from your odds of staying sober. Attendance at 12 step meetings, staying current with any therapy, finding legitimate employment, and taking steps to improve your physical health can all help you through this risky time period. However, one of the biggest factors that will either make or break your recovery can be the people you choose to surround yourself with.
Stick With the Winners
If lasting sobriety is something you really want, it is critical to begin to surround yourself with others who want the same thing. More often than not, people who aren’t serious about their recovery tend to gravitate towards one another, and groups of people will end up relapsing together. People who are serious about their recovery can laugh at themselves, but never make a joke out of sobriety or the disease of addiction/alcoholism. Find the people that are working a program- doing the steps, talking to a sponsor, regularly going to meetings, being of service to others, and trying to act with principle in their personal, home, and work relationships. It is important to have a solid network of people who are serious about their recovery, that will not only help you to stay accountable and consistent, but that are developing the same goals, principles, and ideals that you are.
Not So Fast, Though.
This isn’t to say that you can’t be friends with anyone who isn’t always “on their game”, or with people who are struggling. On the contrary, you can often be a good example to those that are struggling once you have a solid program yourself. No one does recovery perfectly, and we are all here to support each other and walk the path together. However, you just don’t want to find yourself in a dangerous place (physically, mentally, or spiritually), with no one in your life that takes recovery seriously. We all need people that will call us out and keep us “on the beam”, but we also need to be a helping hand to those around us. It’s all about finding the balance.
Help is Available
If you or someone you know is struggling to stay off drugs or alcohol, call 1-800-203-2024, to find out if inpatient treatment might be the answer.