Many of us have allowed our love, forgiveness, and kindness to be contingent on receiving the same from others. When we have expectations of others, particularly when these expectations determine our feelings or actions, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment and resentment. When we get sober, we learn that we cannot depend on human powers- we must learn to rely on a higher power. This gives us the freedom to love and forgive others without condition. It is not up to us to issue judgment, punishment, or condemnation. We recognize that everyone has to have their own experience, and we allow people the chance to have this experience, releasing any resentment or anger with love and tolerance. All we can control is our own actions.