Holding an intervention to confront a loved one with an addiction can be challenging, especially when they are in denial about their problem. The most important thing that you need to focus on when holding an intervention is that it is only because you care about them and want them to get the help that they need.
The Right Intervention Approach
When holding an intervention there are definitely things that need to be avoided and touched on very lightly for it to be effective. First off, you want your loved one to be comfortable where they are. You are already putting them in an uncomfortable situation, do not make it worse by holding the intervention somewhere that is unfamiliar to them. One of the biggest things that can make an intervention go wrong is speaking with anger or placing blame upon the addict. Yes, it is understandable that you have become frustrated with your loved one. However, showing this frustration during an intervention may lead the addict to shutting down and from that point on you have already lost with this intervention. Maintain focus on wanting to offer your loved one support throughout their addiction and future recovery. Along with this it is also best to have a plan of when everyone should speak at the intervention. It is easy to get worked up about the whole idea and possibly nerves may result in you wanting to just say everything you have planned out as soon as possible. This can lead to multiple people speaking at one time which again can make the loved one feel as though they are being attacked or ganged up on.
Set Reasonable Expectations
It is also important to realize that while you do want them to succeed in overcoming their addiction, the first intervention you hold may not be the one to influence your loved one to change. It may actually take a couple to convince them. This can also be difficult if your loved one is under the influence while you are holding the intervention. They will not be thinking clearly and are more likely to take anything said in the wrong way. So regardless of how difficult it may be, if you are able to hold the intervention at some point when you know your loved one is not under the influence would be the best. Lastly, if you do decide to hold an intervention and want it to go as smoothly as possible, the best thing you can do is have a professional’s help. While you do know your loved one the best, an addiction’s professional holds a better understanding of how and why your loved one may be reacting the way the are during the intervention.
Still Have Questions or Concerns?
If you are holding an intervention for a loved one or want to have treatment options ready for after the intervention call Serenity Acres today to talk to an addiction’s professional, at 1-800-203-2024.