It can be hard to accept that the person you are dating is an addict. In the beginning it seems fine that they drink or use drugs every now and again, but this is just because you may not have spent that much time with them thus far. As the relationship begins to grow, you begin to spend more time together and you may notice that their substance abuse is not just a frequent occurrence, but a constant one. As troubling as this is, you have grown to love this person and want to help. Or possibly, this person developed their addiction after you began dating. Either way, it is natural to believe that you can help, and that with your help they will be able to overcome their obsession with drugs or alcohol.
To start off with, as the loved one of an addict you will probably find that going to Al-Anon meetings is helpful in not only learning how to communicate with your significant other, but with how you personally are dealing with their addiction. Al-Anon meetings are basically Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, but for the loved ones of addicts who are learning the best way to cope for them. You can find wisdom and inspiration from others who can not only relate to you, but who have been put in the same situations.
When to Walk Away
Whether or not Al-Anon is something that works for you, odds are you will gain more clarity on your situation and how you want to approach it. If you have discussed getting treatment as an option with your significant other and they are up for it, then that is obviously ideal. However, it is not always that simple. If you find that your partner is not interested in getting help of any sort it may be time to take a step back and evaluate your relationship with them. Is their addiction something that you can live with? As much as you may try to make it work, the odds are, it may come to a point where you can no longer support their habit- and that is okay. It is important to realize that just because you are no longer with that person because of their addiction does not mean you do not love them or that you do not want the best for them. It simply means that you can no longer be a support system for their addiction. Which could actually turn out to be a wake up call for them and influence them to get the help that they need. Nonetheless, even in recovery, specifically early recovery, it can be challenging for an addict to participate in a relationship, as that is a time that they need to spend on themselves and nothing more.
Help When It’s Wanted.
If your significant other is struggling with an addiction, call Serenity Acres today to speak to a professional about getting them help, at 1-800-203-2024.